WHOSE WEDDING IS IT….REALLY?

Yes, this is your special day, so it seems right that everything should be centred around you as the bride and groom. But…it is important for you to remember that as much as it’s all about you, you have also invited a significant number of friends and family to share this day with you. You will most likely do the bulk of the planning and decision-making by yourselves and for yourselves, but people will attend your wedding to honour your union and celebrate with you. They haven’t come just to watch the two of you have fun. You should want them to have a good time too. So remember that there will be decisions that you must make with all stakeholders in mind:

Your Invited Guests

You have invited these people to come and celebrate with you, so you want them to be comfortable and to enjoy your day with you. Consider your guests in terms of venue accessibility, menu choices, drinks and entertainment.

Family

Whether we like it or not, family will be directly and indirectly involved in some of your decision-making.

From the get-go, sit down as a couple and agree on the aspects of the wedding that you will involve them in from the start. It’s not as easy as it sounds – in any culture. But you have to manage this and communicate it well from day 1 of planning.

The Bride and The Groom

There are certain things that are fundamental for you on your wedding day, and as a couple, it is highly likely that your fundamentals are not the same. A bride has her own priorities, and so does a groom. Identify these now and discuss them as a couple.

When it comes to family involvement in your wedding, well – they are just as excited as you are – and often your parents are even more excited than you are. So before you have that big family wedding meeting, you need to decide what’s important to you as a couple. You need to have full decision-making control of your fundamentals. It’s not a good idea to allow someone else to be involved in decision-making as far as your fundamentals are concerned. Have an understanding of what is most important to you, and what is most important to your partner. Sometimes you don’t need to understand why a certain aspect of the wedding is so important to your partner, just understand that it is important, and keep this in mind throughout the planning process, to avoid conflict. You will both need to learn to compromise during the wedding planning process – very good practice for your marriage

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💎 Choosing your rings and venue
💍 Understanding legal considerations
🍰 Selecting your cake and stationery
🎶 Planning your entertainment and programmes
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